tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19623437.post6025532665235478228..comments2023-09-23T12:13:10.019+00:00Comments on December Quinn, Erotic Romance<br>Stacia Kane, Sexy Urban Fantasy: Be a sex-writing strumpet Pt 3Staciahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07969399927758009095noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19623437.post-91417155180749906372008-07-26T11:16:00.000+00:002008-07-26T11:16:00.000+00:00Write out the conversation and then write out the ...Write out the conversation and then write out the scene using actions to convey their words - what a brilliant idea. Particularly suited towards sex where there is a conversation taking place on anothr level, I admit. But I do like it on a general level as well. I think I'm going to try it on an aviation article and see what happens. If I end up sleeping with my co-pilot, you are in big trouble!<BR/><BR/>Reverence: well, that's funny. It's not something I expect or rank up or whatever - I'd be as likely to laugh as anything else. But as I started to write this, I remembered the first time I had sex with my (current) boyfriend, he got on his knees to pull my skirt off. My breathe caught in my throat and although he's long since forgotten the moment it still sticks in my mind. <BR/><BR/>So yeah, a show of reverence can be good and the show is likely good enough.Sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05925593802209715440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19623437.post-55463473364588552822008-07-17T16:04:00.000+00:002008-07-17T16:04:00.000+00:00Gabriele, the sex should be an important plot deve...Gabriele, the sex should be an important plot development no matter what the genre is, or the sex doesn't need to happen at all, IMO (see last week's post on this). :-)Staciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07969399927758009095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19623437.post-491834271494902692008-07-17T15:32:00.000+00:002008-07-17T15:32:00.000+00:00Maybe they aren't necessary in epic Fantasy or His...Maybe they aren't necessary in epic Fantasy or Historical fiction where the relationship is not the main plot. I suppose that's the reason I go for the stranger variants or the sex that doesn't work, because that can turn into an important plot development.Gabriele Campbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17205770868139083575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19623437.post-74661804110881499522008-07-17T12:29:00.000+00:002008-07-17T12:29:00.000+00:00point taken, dee :)point taken, dee :)laughingwolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08873675614347328116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19623437.post-65359248342889868662008-07-17T10:26:00.000+00:002008-07-17T10:26:00.000+00:00Well, laughingwolf...you're right. To a point. Yes...Well, laughingwolf...you're right. To a point. Yes, for example, I decided in Eighth Wand that Prudence would be a very sexually open character and that sexual openness would be something of a metaphor for personal openness in the relationship. But there is a point where the characters take over and you're just writing, not really thinking about it. You throw something in because it just appeares in your head and discover later it fits perfectly with a subplot you want to develop, or whatever.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Well, Bernard, that strikes me as incredibly depressing.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Lol Gabriele! And actually, sweet romantic sex scenes are my least favorite to write. I dislike sugary talk and think most of it is cheesy beyond belief. But they are necessary sometimes, yeah, depending on genre of course.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Aw, Michele, that's so sweet! And awesome; things like that are always a pleasure to hear. And yes, exactly. Everything about sex offers so much opportunity for deepening character and conflict; it's one reason I love them so much.Staciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07969399927758009095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19623437.post-23479196324458337412008-07-17T00:34:00.000+00:002008-07-17T00:34:00.000+00:00While the sheer physical actions in my sex scenes ...While the sheer physical actions in my sex scenes are imaginary, or ripped from porn movies, what I do try to add from my own love life is the passion the two characters have for each other. I think I'm very lucky that after nine years Jason and I are still very attracted to each other, and are playful. I like to imagine how I can make the characters feel the same way about each other.<BR/><BR/>Of course, I have an erotic-horror piece coming out soon that's all jealousy, obsession and lust. The relationship there is very strong but not good. Which of course shows that problems with sex itself can be character defining and plot driving.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19623437.post-15315183356967491312008-07-16T21:22:00.000+00:002008-07-16T21:22:00.000+00:00I think that potato is into SM. :)The strange thin...I think that potato is into SM. :)<BR/><BR/>The strange thing is that I have no problems to write M/M, bondage and other kinkiness, even rape (both genders) and torture, but I've shied away from a sweet hetero scene so far. <BR/><BR/>Not that I absoutely need them in my books, and if I'm going to have one, it'll be considerably shorter than 14 pages ;) but I should try my hands on something at least once.Gabriele Campbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17205770868139083575noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19623437.post-10468181246918103542008-07-16T20:57:00.000+00:002008-07-16T20:57:00.000+00:00D, women aren't the only ones who fake things. We ...D, women aren't the only ones who fake things. We men do 'reverent' but we ain't thinking it. :)BernardLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09722619048888613647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19623437.post-12286519242597416402008-07-16T20:56:00.000+00:002008-07-16T20:56:00.000+00:00i have a ...ahem... bone to pick on one idea... si...i have a ...ahem... bone to pick on one idea... since YOU write every word, YOU are fully responsible for EVERY kink, or non, your CHARACTERS exhibit... how could you NOT be?<BR/><BR/>otherwise i agree on the whole lot<BR/><BR/>thx dee....laughingwolfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08873675614347328116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19623437.post-82225559121261577482008-07-16T19:18:00.000+00:002008-07-16T19:18:00.000+00:00Lol, kis, I think I fell in love with it a little ...Lol, kis, I think I fell in love with it a little bit, too! And that's a great answer. I don't know why people feel that because we write sex it's okay to ask us insulting, presumptuous personal questions.<BR/><BR/>Hee, Charles! It should be for you partly; writing a good sex scene should turn you on. But it just doesn't have to be because it's something that would normally turn you on, if you know what I mean.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Bernard--then you should be. If you can't revere my body--at least the first time, or when we're having a deep emotional moment--then I'm not letting you into it. Sorry, hon, but I'm pretty firm on that one.Staciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07969399927758009095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19623437.post-63110599306064588352008-07-16T16:51:00.000+00:002008-07-16T16:51:00.000+00:00I am taking notes, and find only one minor disagre...I am taking notes, and find only one minor disagreement with the last section. We are never reverent when we remove clothing, and yea, I'll speak for all men on this, D. :) When I read the word 'reverent' referring to a man's thoughts as he's disrobing a woman, I start laughing. We may be feeling a lot of different emotions: trepidation, blessed, eagerness to the point of insanity, or even plain old lust; but never reverence. :)BernardLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09722619048888613647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19623437.post-35804983779640837542008-07-16T16:16:00.000+00:002008-07-16T16:16:00.000+00:00Good points all. I guess I tend to forget somewhe...Good points all. I guess I tend to forget somewhere in the sex scene that I'm not writing this stuff for me. LOL.Charles Gramlichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02052592247572253641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19623437.post-57722223143397443362008-07-16T16:13:00.000+00:002008-07-16T16:13:00.000+00:00OMG, D. I think I'm in love with your potato peele...OMG, D. I think I'm in love with your potato peeler...<BR/><BR/>I've had creepy guys ask me if I've tried everything in my books. I smile and say, "Of course! How can I write convincingly about someone chopping a man's fingers off when he won't talk if I've never done it? How can I properly describe the friction of ribs against steel when you pull your sword out if I've never...what? Oh, you mean the <I>sex.</I> Nah, I don't do that stuff..."kirsten saellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02778076783406073225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19623437.post-71029748170247696202008-07-16T12:48:00.000+00:002008-07-16T12:48:00.000+00:00Thanks Anna! Yep, we're going to talk about going ...Thanks Anna! Yep, we're going to talk about going deep (heh heh) when we get into the real mechanics of it all, but that's an excellent point. You could probably even say that thinking from the male POV (or the opposite sex POV anyway) removes the writer further from the "People will think this is about me" feeling, and so make it easier. I'll be sure to mention that, thanks for the suggestion!<BR/><BR/>Thanks Bernita! I know it was one of the things that made me the most nervous when I started out.Staciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07969399927758009095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19623437.post-90944505737113227362008-07-16T12:08:00.000+00:002008-07-16T12:08:00.000+00:00Very good!I think fear that the reader will identi...Very good!<BR/>I think fear that the reader will identify the characters w/the writer is the biggest obstacle - and may lead to bland sex scenes.Bernitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05264585685253812090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19623437.post-86870325338337840722008-07-16T11:59:00.000+00:002008-07-16T11:59:00.000+00:00Great post Dee,I'd also add "get in character" to ...Great post Dee,<BR/><BR/>I'd also add "get in character" to your list. Though you certainly aren't your characters, as you've said, it can help to get inside their head. <BR/><BR/>And the deeper you can get into their POV, the more you begin to think and feel like them, and the more easily the sex scenes flow. Because then you're not thinking about you at all, you're just Heroine A or Hero B, enjoying what's happening with your lover(s).<BR/><BR/>I find that especially helpful when writing from the male POV, as it keeps my "voice" more on track if I'm thinking like a man rather than thinking like a female writer. (Or at least trying to think like a man, lol.)<BR/><BR/>Anna J. EvansAnna J. Evanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01397240894645783388noreply@blogger.com